NO, YOU'RE NOT CRAZY
Hey guys! So, imagine this. You and three of your closest girlfriends are having a girls’ night out and the subjects of weddings and marriage come up. All of you have your own visions of your nuptials but you all pretty much agree that getting married is what you all want.
One of your friends says that she has no interest in having a big shindig. She wants to just go the courthouse and say her I Do’s and start her life with her new husband. Another friend says she wants a beautiful exotic destination wedding for her closest friends and family to attend and share in the special time with her. And the other friend says she wants an over the top wedding with all the bells and whistles but she just wants to hire a wedding planner to take care of everything. Everyone at the table “Amens” her and says she’s right to want a wedding planner because it’s just so stressful.
Well in your head, you’re thinking, “I want to plan my own wedding!” So you say those thoughts aloud. “I want the bells and whistles too but I want to plan my wedding myself.” They all stop and look at you like you have an eyeball in the middle of your forehead. They ask you “ARE YOU CRAZY? Wedding planning is so stressful; who wants to put themselves through that?”
Well girlfriend, I’m here to tell you that YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!
When most people think of planning a wedding, they think of that bridezilla friend who was stressed out and miserable during her entire engagement. They think of it as “chaos and craziness” where everyone is arguing and throwing fits about every decision that needs to be made. But what most people don’t realize is that planning your own wedding DOES NOT have to be so dramatic and chaotic.
Take this journey with me for a minute. The man of your dreams pops that question that almost every girl yearns to hear and you say YES! After a few days of bliss, reality sets in and you know some real work must begin. You decide you want to plan your wedding yourself so you get online and start your google searches and set up your Pinterest boards.
You choose your bridal party, gather all the information you need like checklists and timelines and start making phone calls to meet and book your vendors. You have a few hiccups here and there but nothing you can’t handle because you are organized and have all your ducks in a row. You get down to the last few weeks before your wedding and you realize there is nothing left to do except pack your bags for your honeymoon.
In the days leading up to your big day, you go to the spa, attend your rehearsal, and check into your bridal suite. It’s now the day before your wedding and you are focused on what’s going to happen the next day. You write your fiancé a special letter from your heart and reflect on this beautiful experience you will go through in less than a day. You wake up the next morning, your bridesmaids come to your hotel and the wedding prep begins.
Your makeup artist and hairstylist are there to beautify everyone. Your photographer and videographer arrive to capture this entire experience, meanwhile you look around the room with a sense of calmness and peace. You step into your dress and look in the mirror and all you can do is smile. You get into your limo, walk down the aisle, say your I Do’s and now you are a married woman.
You and your new husband arrive at your reception and you walk in and it is beautiful. You have your first dance, cut your cake, throw your bouquet and dance until your feet hurt. Everyone is having a wonderful time and everything goes off beautifully. You have your send off and enjoy your first night with your husband as man and wife.
Now, are you thinking this sounds like a Lifetime Movie and this never happens in real life? Well let me tell you, this does happen. It happens all the time if you have the right systems in place and are thoughtful during your planning. When you plan your own wedding, you must be very strategic. Now don’t get me wrong, something WILL happen that is completely out of your control. But because you planned properly, you will accept that there was nothing you could have done to avoid that something and it won’t bother you as much.
Listen, planning your own wedding can be a very enjoyable and pleasant experience. It can be a time you look back on and have the fondest memories. Being engaged should be such a beautiful time in your life. It shouldn’t be filled with stress and anxiety. So, I give you permission to have the desire to want the experience of planning your own wedding. You have that right. Don’t let your friends and family talk you out of it if it’s something you truly yearn to do. It will be A LOT OF WORK but it is very much so doable and OH SO WORTH IT.
Don’t look at planning your wedding as a task; look at it as an experience, a journey. It’s a special time in your life and you should experience it the way you desire. So I say, GO FOR IT! Plan your wedding, be strategic, enjoy the journey. There will be no other experience like it, I PROMISE!
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